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Posted by HarshawJ in Musings
on Friday, January 06, 2006 12:46:56 AM
in a "disappointed" mood.

Honesty

by Billy Joel

If you search for tenderness
It isn’t hard to find
You can have the love you need to live
But if you look for truthfulness
You might just as well be blind
It always seems to be so hard to give

Chorus

Honesty is such a lonely word
Everyone is so untrue
Honesty is hardly ever heard
And mostly what I need from you

I can always find someone
To say they sympathize
If I wear my heart out on my sleeve
But I don’t want some pretty face
To tell me pretty lies
All I want is someone to believe

Chorus

I can find a lover
I can find a friend
I can have security
Until the bitter end
Anyone can comfort me
With promises again
I know, I know

When I’m deep inside of me
Don’t be too concerned
I won’t ask for nothin’ while I’m gone
But when I want sincerity
Tell me where else can I turn
Because you’re the one that I depend upon

Chorus

Incredible… beyond belief. I give up. Why do I even try anymore.

Does anyone give me any credit at all? I am not a stupid person, I can figure stuff out without having been told things. Do people not realize that what is not said or done is just as important as what IS said? And even when given a chance to come clean, they don’t and just perpetuate the dishonesty.

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Posted by TxRose on
01/06/06 09:05:44 AM

I love that song by Billy Joel! I find that people are not as honest to me as I am to them. I wonder just how people can live life without being honest. It is something that is at the core of my very being and modeled after my own Grandma.

Because I am the one who is honest in relationships, I find myself hurt by the folks who are not honest to me. I find myself trusting others too much because I feel that they are going to be as honest to me as I am to them (at least, in a perfect world). I am usually the one who discovers the truth, which feels like someone has just stabbed me through my soul.

While I am a private person in many aspects, if someone ever needs to know more from me, all they have to do is ask. I don't like playing mind games and appreciate tactful candor.

I would just suggest that, if you are suspecting someone of being dishonest to you and you truly care about this person, you approach them tactfully and with an mind open to learn the other point of view. Just a word - sometimes those who suspect others of being dishonest, they are warranted; however, other times it can be because they lack the ability to trust and believe in others.

Best wishes for mending your perception of dishonesty - real or imagined.

TxRose

Posted by on
01/06/06 12:07:50 PM

I agree with TX. Rose..........sometimes things, when discussed in an open manner are not quite what they are perceived to be.....communication is essential.
If it is an important issue to you, you should address it and put your mind at ease one way or another.

Posted by on
01/06/06 01:16:29 PM

Dude....
I SO agree with you. Actions speak louder than words. Interpretation is pretentious if there is trust between people. If you have to explain yourself for your good deeds, what's the point?
On the other hand, if it is the actions of another you mistrust, the by all means ask. Motives between two who are close should not necessarily be questioned, but a dialogue to clear the air is always a good thing. Don't brood on "What did he/she mean by that? What is in it for him/her?"
Personally, anyone who starts a sentance with: "Seriously..." or "Honestly..." is suspecious if it is someone whom you trust. But then again, it could just be their speech pattern. Honesty is hard, and the Policy of Truth is difficult for all. I've got an extra salt shaker if you need a few grains...

Posted by on
01/06/06 02:00:46 PM

If there is not trust between two people, especially lovers, then there is no real relationship. Honesty, for me, has become a simple rule. It has turned some things over in my life that I guess I could leave intact, but in the long run, the truth will out and those caught in the middle of their webs always get stuck.
Actions, or inactions, can be misinterpreted in any number of ways. It is sometimes easier to jump to conclusions than to deal with what could amount to an awkward confrontation of sorts.
If you feel injured by another individual, consider what there is to be gained.
If nothing else, maybe it is just a good lesson.

Posted by on
01/07/06 11:23:44 PM

f*&%ing talk to them.......seems easy to do if it means anything.......

Posted by HarshawJ on
01/08/06 02:40:13 AM

OK, so in this case I did indeed talk to them, confronted them with the facts, showed that I caught the lies... and well... I have two less friends now. I guess I crushed their egos, they were totally busted and you know what, they couldn't handle the facts, so I guess they were not really a friends to begin with. Shame, I thought they were all these years... Shows that you never know some people.

I can have security
Until the bitter end
Anyone can comfort me
With promises again
I know, I know

Well, one more crisis averted... I guess.

Posted by on
01/08/06 03:48:06 AM

Lies suck
people can't keep the song and dance forever.......
no promises
no lies

Posted by TxRose on
01/08/06 09:17:29 PM

Sorry about that JB. If they were truly your friends, they would appreciate your concern for the lies and offer some sort of viable explanation. Guess they must have been caught unguarded and had no explanations, not expecting you to confront them about it.

They should have never lied about it. If they were your friends, they should have never felt that they had to lie about anything. I know that your trust level is vastly diminished in light of the fact; however, one should be able to trust their friends.

Better to have friends that don't lie and can trust rather than have to wonder forever if they can be trusted.

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