First off, I am not gay, and I know that as I have done my exploring in that area and I know that it is not for me. But following up on the last entry “Wolf Call”, I got to thinking that the ubiquitous whistle hear at construction site is really a form of male appreciation. But here was the thought, can a man appreciate a man in the same or similar way?

I would bet that while women are jealous of each other in regards to looks, there is a bit of appreciation between women about those looks. For example, I do not hear or see any problem between women who remark on other women. It is not considered gay or perverted, it just seems to be accepted. But for men that is different. Why?

I will go on record as to say that I admired a man for his looks recently. He was a strong man of Navaho descent and had all the powerful attributes of Native Americans. He was very impressive in stature and I would say that looking at him most women would have drooled all over themselves to get to know him, he was that impressive. I was impressed. Does this make me gay?

To that I would have to say no. He impressed me on a physical level in terms of his physique, but not sexually. You can (or at least I would hope) have an appreciation for the human body regardless of gender. I grew up with this notion instilled by my parents and I think it was good. But if I tell my friends or acquaintances about this I risk being mocked as gay. I know, I tried and it was laughed at. I got “He’s a ‘Pretty Man’ man” or “You gay man?” or such till I explained.

I would have to say that it is a matter of insecurity in ones own gender role that prompts such remarks from others. Not mine, their insecurity. They do not know how to handle it so lash out at what they would see as a flaw in themselves if they appraised one in their own gender like this. But do women have the same issues? I do not know.