Recently I had a brief email exchange with someone and she was not the kind that like to chat or engage in lengthy email exchanges. She stated that she preferred to meet someone she was interested in quickly and let it go from there. I can understand that, I too like to meet people I meet online as soon as possible, but is there a happy medium between “Let’s Chat” and “Let’s Meet”?

I think there is and if for no other reason than to get an honest feel of the person you are interested in. But what the online conversations require is no bullshit, no lying, no deception, just honest, open communication.

Why? Because you are supposed to be figuring out whether there could be anything between the two of you before you commit to a meeting.

So many people play games with their chats and emails. They are filled with lies and deceptions aimed at solely getting sex. Hell, I would bet if you came out directly and told the person you were trying to bed you were interested in sex and see what happens from there you would score more often than not. I would bet that the honest approach would work, I know if that were done with me I would be more impressed and all the little innuendos and hints.

Then there are those with the quick “Let’s meet…” and wouldn’t you know it, they are not someone you would be interested in after all. Now you are left with an uncomfortable evening that cannot end too soon. Or maybe you are just supper horny and fuck them anyways because you just have to get laid. Then the next morning, it’s “Ok, you can leave now, I got what I wanted. Maybe I will call you again.” All the while knowing that you never will call. Does anyone really feel good after nights like that?

So maybe we should chat and email a bit. In the case with the last woman I emailed back and forth with, it became clear after just a few emails that we would not have anything in common beyond maybe some sex, and we were honest enough to see that acknowledge it. It was all very adult and you know what… even though it will not lead anywhere, it was fun and enjoyable being honest.

So, I say chat, email, phone at least a while before meeting. But while you are doing this, listen to what the other is saying. Think about it and not let it go in one ear and out the other. If you are only out for sex, say so. If you want a serious relationship, say so. You would be surprised how well this works.

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